A reminder NOT to lower your standard when dating

On a call last week (she doesn't mind me telling you) my gorgeous, successful uttered the words: 

“He's alright, maybe I should just give it ago.” She'd been dating someone for month, didn't feel attracted to him, didn't really laugh, OR feel a deepening connection. 

But he was nice and liked her. And she was worrying about turning 37 and missing her chance. 

And as I reminded her, I'm also reminding anyone else who is worrying about ‘time running out’:  

If you’re looking for a long-term partner, it needs to be a relationship that can actually stand the test of time.

Which means you have to have compatibility AND chemistry. 
 

Marrying someone you’re not attracted to, don’t love, or don’t fancy?
Yeah… that’s a no from me. 

HOWEVER, I'm going to caveat this reminder, for all of you saucy souls who hanker after the unavailable guy who gives you butterflies and zero commitment, OR have a strict criteria list and no one quite measures up. 

I’m ALSO a firm believer in slowing down and letting attraction and trust build.


We’ve been conditioned to treat chemistry like a test for romantic success. The spark. Love at first sight. Fireworks and obsession

And because of that, we fixate on the instant high (and write people off way too quickly)

So, here's another reminder for my ladies who… 

❣️ Are wildly attracted to people who play games or keep you guessing


❣️ Your self-worth hinges on your love life


❣️ You mistake safe and secure for boring


❣️ You say you want love but run when it gets real

Then, darling, it’s time to look at what attraction and love actually feels like to you and why. 

If you’re ready to stop settling in your love life, you can book a free call HERE to chat through what's going on and seeing if we would be a good fit to work together. So holla if you're interested.