12 practical things you can do to move your love life forward this year… (with real life examples)

So at some point on this crazy journey with dating and love, like with anything, at some point, we have to put our accountability pants on and get serious.

And trust me, I get why you haven’t.

You’d rather be at home in your PJs than on a mediocre date.

You’d rather protect your peace than invite in chaos.

You’ve built a full life and don’t want anxiety, drama or hot-and-cold energy messing with it.

But here’s the thing: there is a way to approach dating where it feels grounded and intentional, not exhausting. 

It starts by doing more than saying love is a priority.

It starts by acting like it is. 

This was the shift that changed everything for me - for years, I said I wanted a relationship.

I talked about it, thought about it, worried about it… and stayed stuck in the same loops.

👉 Dating unavailable people.
👉Avoiding vulnerability.
👉 Protecting myself so well that nothing could actually reach me.

Then I stopped asking why isn’t this working for me?
And started asking what am I actually doing?

Within a year of taking responsibility for my patterns, my choices, and how I was showing up, I went from single, burned out, and dating-fatigued… to engaged.

Not because I got lucky.
 

Not because the apps suddenly worked.
 

But because I stopped approaching love passively and started treating it with the same intention I’d give anything else that mattered to me.

SO, here are 12 practical things you can do to start shifting your love life this year (without forcing, chasing, or burning yourself out) 

📣 Educate yourself on your love blueprint and patterns (and why you’re attracted to certain people). Get a peace of paper and write down all of your romantic history. How you felt, what happened, why it ended, what you argued about and start to figure out your patterns. Reflect on if there are any links to childhood events, how you felt in teenage years. 

📣 Get honest about the limiting stories and beliefs you’re carrying around dating and love. For example "I’m not good enough, love is hard, there are no good ones left, I'm too old, I will lose my independence" Then write down all the evidence you have that these stories aren't true. 

📣 Build self-awareness and insight through journaling, reflection, or meditation. The more you get to know yourself, your triggers, your thoughts and can ground yourself rather than spiralling into anxiety, the easier it is to regulate yourself through the dating process and make good decisions. 

📣 Clarify the values that drive you and what you actually want from your life. There's no point having a vague goal if you don't know what it is you want. Get super detailed. What do you want for the future? Where do you want to live? How do you want to feel? 

📣 Practice vulnerability with safe people, share your story, name what you want, ask for help. This is the area that most my clients struggle in, and unfortunately to build healthy relationships, there has to vulnerability. Love requires it. So start practicing - with friends, family, whoever feels ok. Start small by asking for a favour, or for help and build up from there. 

📣 Strengthen your confidence by speaking up, setting boundaries, and prioritising daily self-care. For example, spending an extra 2 mins on your makeup, or not wearing any, choosing wearing a colour over black, taking yourself on a quiet walk (even when you have a billion other things to do). saying no to a plan because you're tired, telling someone how you feel, speaking up in a meeting. Confidence is built by doing and by telling yourself each day that you are worthwhile. So get practicing. 

📣 Write a list of behaviours you’re currently engaging in that aren’t helping you find love. For example, judging people on dating apps, being preoccupied with looks, chasing something who isn't available, ignoring love completely, telling yourself ‘I hate men’ on a daily basis, staying in your comfort zone and only hanging out with a few people. 

📣 Then write a bold, inspired list of actions you could take to move closer to the relationship you want. Get a coach, go to therapy, ask for sets up, sit down and do the above! 

📣 Create space by clearing out old messages, unfinished connections, your wardrobe, cupboards. For example stop replying to the ghoster who crops back up, end it with a date that you know isn't go anywhere. Get rid of clothes that aren't you anymore. Clear a bedside table so there is space for someone. 

📣 Define what you want in a partner and how you want the relationship to feel,  then focus on becoming that person. Look at what you actually need to be happy, and who will complement that. For example if you're an anxious girly, then a key compatibility element is patience and good communication. Be honest about if you've really been prioritising that. 

📣 Let yourself get excited about love again (yes, really say it out loud, write it down, tell a friend). 

📣 And finally: get support instead of doing this alone. Check out how to work with me 1:1. All info below

It’s for women who are done with half-effort dating, repeating the same cycles, or waiting for things to magically change.

We do the internal work and the practical work.
 

We look at patterns, beliefs, boundaries, self-trust, attraction, communication, and then we turn that insight into real-world action.

Just intentional movement towards the kind of relationship you actually want.

If something in this email has nudged you, trust that.
 

And I’d love to support you with that!

👉 I'm offering a free 30 minute call to chat through your options. You can book your free call HERE, and if there aren't times that suit, I'll create one for you. Just reply to this email!