MANIFESTING NOT WORKING FOR YOU, YET?
Feel like you’re doing all the manifesting things (writing the lists, visualising your future partner, “putting it out there” to the universe) and yet… it still isn’t happening?
Yeah. I get it.
And I say that as someone who went from a full-blown relationship nightmare to engaged within a year. Calling in your person is not all candles, affirmations and high-vibe playlists. In fact, if that’s all you’re doing, it’s usually why nothing is changing.
Here’s the truth no one really talks about: manifesting love has two parts (and most people only focus on one of them.)
Part one: the healing work
This is the unsexy, uncomfortable, but absolutely essential part. The bit that actually clears the blocks so love can land.
The healing work can look like:
❣️ Forgiving yourself (and others) for past choices and experiences
❣️ Learning how to regulate your emotions instead of spiralling, numbing or attaching
❣️ Inner child work (understanding where your patterns actually started)
❣️ Exploring your attachment tendencies and how they show up in dating
❣️ Rewiring unconscious beliefs like “love is hard”, “I’m too much”, or “it never lasts”
❣️ Identifying your growth edge (the place you avoid but need to lean into)
❣️ Managing your inner critic so it’s no longer running the show
❣️ Releasing shame, guilt, resentment and old emotional baggage
This is the work that stops you being pulled back to the same type of person, the same dynamic, the same heartbreak.
Part two: the calling-in work
Once you’ve cleared some space, then we build momentum. This is where your energy, behaviour and skills start matching what you say you want.
The calling-in part can look like:
💛 Aligning your behaviour with your desires (boundaries, standards, self-respect)
💛 Uplevelling your dating and communication skills
💛 Getting into that expansive, grounded, attractive energy — not anxious or guarded
💛 Getting crystal clear on what you want and what you won’t accept
💛 Creating more love, pleasure and fulfilment in your life now
💛 Learning to balance feminine and masculine energy
💛 Letting go of control and actually trusting the process
Here’s where most people go wrong: they jump straight to flirting techniques, dating strategies and manifestation rituals without doing the inner work. And sure, it might work briefly — until you get bored, triggered, disappointed or scared… and then you snap straight back to old habits (and probably your ex).
But we also don’t stay stuck in healing mode forever. Because healing without movement keeps you small. You need to raise your energy, confidence and skill set to move forward.
In other words: because like attracts like, you have to grow into the woman who can hold the relationship she wants.
And I don’t mean any relationship. I mean the healthy, secure, expansive, mutually choosing, emotionally available kind of love that actually lasts.
I bloody love manifesting. I love this work. And I really love helping women create relationships that feel calm, exciting and nourishing at the same time. But the magic happens when you commit to the process, even when it asks you to clear things out first.
If this email is nudging you, take it as information.
Come and have a chat with me about what your growth edge is and what your next step might be.
👉 1:1 work, where we revamp your love life through my five pillars: Heal, Rebuild, Release, Attract & Commit
You can book a free discovery call here to talk about it
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