When you’ve done ‘the work’ but dating fatigue has kicked back in

This month, there’s been a common frustration in the air when it comes to dating and finding love— maybe you’ve felt it too?

You’ve done the work. You might have been to therapy, coaching, or reading books. You’re showing up, putting in effort when dating, shifting your mindset. And yet… nothing seems to be changing in your love life.

You might have had a few good months of feeling hopeful and positive, but now it’s back to:
🙄 Unavailable guys
😒 Crap dates (or none)
😩 The fatigue slowly creeping back in

It reminds me of a client who, after years of being single, met her partner within 9 months of committing to change her romantic patterns.

But a few months before this, I got a very different kind of message.

She was tearing her hair out — frustrated and disappointed. She swore the dating apps had somehow gotten WORSE:

🚩 More ghosting
🚩 More bad communication
🚩 More red flags

And I felt for her… but I was also secretly pleased. Because the dating pool hadn’t changed. She had.

Those kinds of men had always been there — she just wasn’t accepting that as normal anymore. She’d raised her standards. And when that happens, the ones who don’t meet them are suddenly glaringly obvious.

And that’s the truth about raising your standards in love: it can feel worse before it gets better.

Yes, there may be:
🥴 Fewer people to date
🥴 Longer waits between something meaningful 
🥴 Less attention — because you’re not entertaining crumbs
🥴 A little less drama (and a little more quiet)

But it also means:
💫 More time, energy, and headspace to build a life you love
💫 Meeting people who actually show up
💫 Learning to like yourself… 
💫 Love that finally feels calm

I want that for you.

Too many people accept half-hearted effort, chase breadcrumbs, or confuse endless texting with real connection.

That’s why my coaching work focuses on helping you:

❣️ Build confidence and resilience so rejection hurts less
❣️ Step into magnetic dating energy
❣️ Create and hold strong boundaries
❣️ Communicate with clarity and power
❣️ Identify real compatibility — not just chemistry
❣️ Master the dating dance without losing yourself in it

If you’re ready to stop settling in your love life, you can book a free discovery call with me to explore what that looks like. I have spaces for TWO new clients this Autumn and I'm offering 20% off for those spaces. 

You can book a free call HERE to chat through what's going on and seeing if we would be a good fit to work together. So holla if you're interested.